I spent 4 years with an N, so my bet is that he’s suffering from PTSD, which is pretty darn depressing. Even with counseling, it can take YEARS to recover from the shock, trauma, abuse, mind-f’ry – enough to where you feel normal again. This guy has some serious baggage right now. That he knows that and wants to deal with it is to his credit.
The only closure he’s going to get is when he realizes that he’s actually seen something that horrific. I always likened it to seeing pig fly. It’s impossible — but you saw it —– and nobody else out there gets it. There are pigs out there, just flying around, and around, and around.
I’m so sorry….but even with all the love, understanding and compassion you can muster, this will be nothing but painful for you. He’s very damaged right now. Give him some time and space to let him work on himself. If it’s meant to be, it will be.
In the final endnotes Weber states that he abandoned research into Protestantism because his colleague Ernst Troeltsch , a professional theologian , had begun work on The Social Teachings of the Christian Churches and Sects . Another reason for Weber's decision was that Troeltsch's work already achieved what he desired in that area, which is laying groundwork for comparative analysis of religion and society. Weber moved beyond Protestantism with his research but would continue research into sociology of religion within his later works (the study of Judaism and the religions of China and India ).  :49